We have been studying some really tough stuff over at Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study. The chapter we are reading this week is about finding confidence in Christ despite the pain of your past. If you aren’t part of this Online Bible Study let me encourage you to click here and see for yourself all the work God is doing!
Over 17000 women, together, studying the power and promises of Gods Word through the Bible and Renee Swope’s book “A Confident Heart”.
But, as I said before, yesterday was a tough day on the blog. And so today OBS leader Melissa Taylor is encouraging us to move forward despite the pain of our past. However, for some of us this will be more difficult than others. In fact , for me, moving past the pain of my past involved about 2 years of professional counseling combined with a continued anti-depressant medication.
I want to share with the all of you who might be wondering, when it is time to get help? When is it time to seek counseling?
And as a counselor myself, and a survivor, I want to share my thoughts with you.
It could be a good idea to see a counselor if:
the pain of your past involves flashbacks, panic attacks, or frequent intrusive memories of the event
your past is affecting your day to day activities, your thoughts about it are becoming intrusive and overwhelming
you are feeling depressed or sad most days
it’s becoming hard to sleep most nights
there is increasing conflict and tension in your relationships
your work or family is suffering because you cannot focus or concentrate
you feel anxious most of the time
you think about hurting yourself or ending your life
you have unexplained medical/physical problems that are bothering you
Again, these are just signs that it might be time to see a counselor.
Some of you will say you tried counseling, and it didn’t work. Or you had a bad experience with a counselor. Please don’t let that stop you. There are several counselors out there and I encourage you to find one who is a good fit for you. It’s ok to shop around a bit and find the right one! Also, consider that perhaps the last time you went to counseling the timing may have been wrong. Things could very will be different now that you are at another stage of your life.
If finances are a concern, look for a counselor who operates on a sliding scale. Also many churches and schools have programs to help individuals pay for counseling. There are options out there.
And most importantly, pray about it. Pray about the financial concerns. Pray if you have fears about going. Pray for God to help you find the right counselor.
Counseling is not a sign of weakness. It is a valuable and sometimes very necessary tool to help you get out of a tough place and move into the confident thriving life God has for you. I am praying for you sweet sisters in Christ and I can’t wait to see how God provides for you in this exciting season as you move forward despite the pain of the past.