There are all sorts of reasons not to love your husband. He farts, burps, leaves dirty socks on the floor, watches movies that make you want to vomit… Or maybe it’s more serious and he had an affair or wrecked your finances…. As wives the reasons can be infinite for us to be bitter, resentful, and unhappy.
What I am asking you to do today, love your husband, may seem impossible. And mind you it would be if we didn’t love him with Jesus love. Unconditional love that absolutely does not condone sin, but also freely forgave us even before we realized what we were doing was wrong and turned around.
This message does not apply to abusive situations nor do I suggest you just ignore your spouses issues and sweep them under the rug. What I am suggesting is that while you work out the messes, you choose to love your man anyways.
How do you do this?
1. Respect him always. You don’t have to respect what he does but respect who he is. Catch him off guard and compliment him on what he is doing well.
2. Take the word divorce out of your vocabulary. Rebuilding your marriage may require counseling, working with a pastor, etc. But threatening divorce is never healthy or helpful. Don’t do it.
3. Make a list of the qualities about him you do enjoy or did enjoy in the past. Focus on these!
4. Pray! You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Phil 4:13) pray for the strength to pursue and fight for your marriage. God can and will redeem any marriage. Start loving your man NOW and pray for God to give you wisdom and guidance to take steps towards healing the messes.