because she was a friend…


“If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.” Philippians 2:1-4 MSG

I miss her. I really do. I hadn’t thought of her in a long time, but tonight, as part of the fallen cast of TEXAS, I heard her name.

We grew up together, danced together, laughed together, and cried together. She stood beside me at my wedding, and I miss her.

I miss the way she drew me out of my shell. From convincing me to audition for middle school show choir, to trying out for the high school dance team. She was always by my side. Things I never would have done on my own, I did, because she encouraged me.

Her talent far exceeded my own, but talent meant nothing to her. If she couldn’t convince others through her dancing to believe in themselves, then what was the purpose? She loved, and loved deeply.

And tonight I saw her in my daughter’s best friend. A friend so very similiar. A friend who pulls my Lauren up by her hand and says “come on, let’s do this” even when Lauren is crazy afraid. And I’m thankful, beyond words thankful.

My sweet sister Elise’s time one earth was cut short, but her spirit of kindness and love – a spirit given to her by God – lives on. She was empowered to breath encouragement into others and she took her gifting seriously.

And so sweet sister who feels like you don’t have much to offer…you have no idea. Your smile means the world to someone. That conversation you had over coffee…it changed a life. The funny text you sent…it gave her a break from the tears, even if just for a moment. The cookie and sweet tea you left on her desk…it made her day. It doesn’t take much to be a friend. It doesn’t take much to show the extravagant love of Christ. It’s easy. Living a life of purpose doesn’t have to be complicated.

So maybe it could be a thing. Maybe we could show someone some love. Not in the large kind of way, but the simple I see and notice you – and I think you are amazing – kind of way. Maybe it would make a difference. Maybe they would see Jesus. Maybe they would do something afraid and discover strength they never knew they had. If we took the time…just maybe…



  1. Jennifer says

    So beautiful, encouraging, and true…The simple things do make a difference…I know from being the one seeing and receiving them…but I often forget that the simple things about ME could be making a difference too….God can use me too…I can’t push that truth aside because of my own insecurity <3

  2. Jennifer Hale says

    I saw the lady that holds up the sign “You are important” and “You have a purpose” today. It’s little things that are so random but so impactful. God bless her and her cause. I can’t imagine how many people see her and rethink life.

  3. Lupe says

    Couldn’t sleep (feeling sick to my stomach) and for some reason was drawn to your site. Thanks for sharing. We have all lost that friend whether through death, time or space. Every one we meet touches us in some way. We all need to make a concerted effort to make a difference some way.

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