Ephesians 4:29 fast…


“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

“That’s an Ephesians 4:29-er” my pastor shared on Sunday. This is the phrase His niece uses when someone speaks in a manner that’s unkind or discouraging. It made me laugh and got me thinking. All week long I have caught myself mid 4:29-er – then silenced that naughty comment!

Honestly, this lesson is perfect timing. (And I’m gonna say it, the truth that no one wants to here!) As I travel to the Proverbs 31 She Speaks Conference, I know there will be ample opportunity to sin. 4:29-ers could abound. At a Christian conference you say? Yes, at a Christian conference.

We women can be feisty and hurtful. Maybe we don’t speak our thoughts, or maybe we do, or does it even matter? Internal dialogue is just as damaging to our heart integrity as is verbal spilage. But where people gather – judgements happen, comparison throttles, and expectations face reality. Will we mind our words and thoughts, or will we give in to temptation?

Here’s a challenge for wherever you are this week. If its not Ephesians 4:29 acceptable, don’t say it. And don’t stop there. Those things you want to say – examine them. What’s behind them? Is there a heart issue going on? Jealousy, envy, anger, the desire to fit in with the rest of the gossip gals?

Put a 4:29 blockade over your heart and tongue. Put it over your texts, your Twitter feed, your Facebook posts, and your emails. Take a 4:29 fast: for the week, the month, forever! Lets see just how uplifting and encouraging we women can truly be.



  1. Angela Cassel says

    Thank you so very much for this post! I have had surgery recently and have been unable to get out, exercise, or barely walk. My patience as a patient is, unfortunately, not what they should be. I needed this Godly reminder to watch my words and actions. Praise God for you…thank you!

  2. Jenny Rutan says

    AWESOME! I love how we can use Eph.4:29er in our every day lingo to help us to remember to speak kindly and not let our flesh rule! Thank you and may God bless you!


    Wow this is what I needed. I wished I would have read this yesterday. I had folks upset with me and I could have really used this. Thank you.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *