Comparison can’t happen without something to compare. That’s the divine thing about grace. It negates works and earnings making comparison impossible. We are all equal under grace. No one is more or less deserving of it. We all receive the full measure of grace regardless of our actions.
Comparison exists on a human plane of ability and assessment. We compare the gifts God has given us saying she has more or less, but regardless of our assessments, His grace remains the same. He has given each of us the full measure of what we need.
So if none of us have more or less, if we are all the same under grace, why is comparison so difficult to let go of?
Because our humanity gets in the way. While God sees us completely covered by the love of Jesus, we struggle to forgive. The principle of fair vs unfair runs loose in our minds leading us to investigate who received more than they deserved. We wonder why we can’t be so fortunate as to have what he or she has.
If it really doesn’t matter who does what or who exceeds who is it really worth wasting our time and energy trying to figure it out?
What if we took all that energy and instead chose to love?
To love fully and deeply, we must stop comparing and start seeing those around us as covered by the full measure of grace. Then we are free to love without borders or quantification. We love like Jesus loves.
It’s difficult to stop comparing. But replacing the desire to weigh and measure with the choice to love more and deeper can help us circumvent the comparison trap and focus on what really matters.