However, as it is written: “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived” the things God has prepared for those who love him—these are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. 1 Corinthians 2:9-12
I sit with them almost daily. Real people tied in seemingly impossible knots over something that happened or someone that hurt them in the past. And usually it’s not just one thing…it’s several. A virtual domino parade – and as they fell, one after another, pain stacked up higher – and they buried it deeper. It become more and more a part of who they are, but stuffed in a hidden place where no one could see. These layered injustices affect their ability to connect with others, to concentrate at work, to complete the daily tasks of parenting…yet no one knows they are there because shame keeps them under lock and key.
“Don’t tell anyone,” it whispers. “If you do, they will hate you even more. They will think something is wrong with you. That you aren’t tough enough. And plus, if you touch this pain, even prod at it with a stick, you will never recover. It’s best to just keep it hidden. Does it really matter anyways? What if you tell and no one cares? Then where will you be. Just keep it tucked under the rug where it belongs and move on with your life. This is best.”
I have fought these shame based lies and thoughts myself. I know them well as they held me captive for years. It’s only by the grace of God that the things I had hidden came out. The emotional bondage they put me in gave me no other choice, other than to just stop living all together, and that wasn’t an option, or at least one I was willing to take.
Why is it we keep our deepest hurts and pains buried so deeply inside? I have several theories, and it’s different for each individual. But there’s something I want to share with you today…
Without revelation, there is no transformation.
What does this mean? Let me explain…
Our deepest hurts and pains, the things we want to sweep under the rug and pretend never happened – things we feel ashamed of – are usually the places God longs to love us the most. Yet rarely do we let Him in…heck…rarely do we let ourselves in. Why we would let God?
Satan’s weapon is fear. If he can convince us to keep these things hidden…he does a pretty good job of stealing our emotional freedom. Why would he do this? Because he knows how powerful it is!
Where there is freedom there is restoration, and where there is restoration, there is revelation.
As God reveals to us who He is and how true His promises actually are, even in our darkest deepest places, our faith is transformed in ways no other circumstances could have birthed.
There is purpose in our pain, but it starts with us being willing to talk about and reveal what happened. The things we have done or that have been done to us that we wish no one would know.
Once we are willing to talk about and reveal these things, freedom is soon to follow. God teaches our hands to treat the wounds of our past in such a way that they become the very productivity of our future. He restores the broken places. And once we are restored, His deep unfathomable love is not only revealed to us, but to those around us. And can I just say, every time I have seen this happen it is nothing short of a glorious and marvelous display.
The deeper the pain, the more radical the transformation.
Can you see why Satan would not want this to happen? Can you see why he wants you to stay locked up in the closet of your pain?
The ground floor of your life is ready for change. It’s time for new seeds to be planted and a harvest of growth like you never imagined to come forth. It’s time for freedom. You have been held captive long enough. Christ didn’t defeat death so you could go on living in chains.
You can be set free, transformed, and revived.
Find a Christian Therapist of Pastoral Counselor who can help you sort through and make sense of your past.
As you grow, share your story in appropriate ways with others. Start to make real connections with real people. Develop some relationships where you can be you – all of you.
Choose some coping skills – maybe you write, or draw, or even go for walks in nature to help you process though your past. The options are limitless – as long as they are healthy.
Get into God’s Word. Read the Bible, not just because you know you “should”, but pray for an all consuming passion for scripture. Pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal things through His Word that will mend and heal your heart. Pray for healing daily and don’t give up. It will happen. He will set you free.
The verses at the top of this post from 2 Corinthians tell us we cannot even fathom or imagine how He loves or the things He has planned for us. They are beyond our deepest comprehension, but are revealed to us by and through the Holy Spirit. So today, together, we kick that other spirit of captivity and fear to the curb and trade it for love and revelation from God and His Holy Spirit. Divine revelation, healing, and transformation are ours through Him. Let’s take the steps necessary to move forward.